You’ve been together a long time and for a while now things had not been good at all. So you take the big step and tell your partner you want to break up. You move out or your partner moves out and at first it feels good, at least the conflict in your life has settled down.
But then reality sets in……you made a HUGE mistake. The time apart gives you time to sort through some of your thoughts and feelings and you truly DO love that person. But now what?!?!
Take a deep breath. It’s okay, you just need to take things one step at a time.
First off, you need to let him or her know that they have every right to be mad but tell them that you don’t expect to have him or her come back. Just say, “Whatever happens from this point is OK with me. I just wanted to let you know that I made a big mistake with you and I’m sorry if I hurt you.” Ask for forgiveness, but don’t beg for it. Begging is not a good way to win anyone back.
Also, don’t ask to be reunited. You should let them know that you don’t expect a second chance and you probably don’t deserve one but you really wish that things had worked out differently. Say your piece and then walk away. If they are interested in getting back together with you or are curious about what you are trying to do then let them make the move. It takes strength and character to admit a mistake and an equal amount of it to take the consequences. If your ex is as special as you believe them to be, they will notice what you have just done.
This would NOT be a good time to try and get that person jealous! This is the time to show your ex that you have remorse and want to be forgiven. This is the time to be humble.
Then take it one step at a time to win back your ex’s faith and trust. You can do it, just give it time.
To good lovin’,
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